In a recent letter to advice columnist R. Eric Thomas, a man shared his dilemma of wanting to reconnect with his ex-wife after finding an old photo of her. The man and his ex-wife were married briefly and divorced 40 years ago, and he is now happily married to someone else. After reaching out to his ex-wife’s brother and expressing his desire to catch up, he received no response.
Thomas advises the man that sometimes silence is a clear message in itself. If the photo is something he believes his ex-wife would genuinely appreciate, he could consider sending it to her brother as a gesture of goodwill. However, it is important to respect the fact that his ex-wife has clearly moved on and may not be interested in rekindling any past connections.
While feelings of nostalgia and curiosity are natural, Thomas emphasizes that the photo does not necessarily need to lead to a reunion. It is essential to consider the other person’s boundaries and prioritize their comfort in such situations. Ultimately, letting go of the idea of reconnecting may be the best course of action for all involved.
For more advice from R. Eric Thomas, readers can send their questions to eric@askingeric.com or reach out via mail at P.O. Box 22474, Philadelphia, PA 19110. They can also stay updated by following him on Instagram and signing up for his weekly newsletter on rericthomas.com.
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