In a recent Dear Annie column, the writer seeks advice on how to handle a situation where their new boyfriend is polyamorous, while they are not. The boyfriend has expressed a desire for the writer to be in a relationship with him and another woman to satisfy his needs, causing the writer to feel lost and confused. Despite their love for him, the writer is not sure if they are mentally prepared to enter into a polyamorous relationship.
Annie Lane advises the writer to have an open and honest conversation with their boyfriend about their boundaries and the fact that they may never be comfortable with a polyamorous arrangement. Lane emphasizes that compromise in a relationship is important, but when it comes to deal-breaker issues such as this, it may be time to consider parting ways if a mutual agreement cannot be reached. Both partners deserve to be in relationships that make them feel supported, seen, and safe.
Lane’s advice serves as a reminder that it is okay to have different relationship preferences and boundaries, and it is important to communicate openly with your partner about what you are and are not comfortable with. The column also mentions Lane’s new anthology, “How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?” which features columns on marriage, infidelity, communication, and reconciliation, available in paperback and e-book formats. Readers are encouraged to send their questions to dearannie@creators.com for further advice.
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